99Relapses Podcast Episode #14 – Show Transcript

Hi, I’m James Egidio welcome to the 99 relapses podcast. The podcast that moves you from recovery to discovery through the grace and mercy of our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. This is episode number 14, part one, titled 5 Principles of Addiction as a Christian. I just wanted to put out a disclaimer based on episodes that were leading up to this particular podcast, which is number 14, but there we’re several podcasts and I say several, probably about four or five, where there was a technical glitch where when I had broke for a commercial, you may have heard a long pause of silence and there was also a technical glitch that when I did break for commercial, that you continued to hear the podcast episode while the commercial was going on and that has been resolved so for those of you who’ve been listening, you can go back now to previous podcast episodes that is episodes one through 13.

Just to recap previous episodes leading up to where I’m going to move forward from here on out with the 99Relapses podcast in earlier episodes of the 99 relapses podcast I had mentioned and this was, I believe in, episodes two and three is that to know your addiction is to understand your addiction and the only way to understand your addiction is through, of course, the grace and mercy of our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. It’s through the word and through prayer and meditation on the word. And then I also brought up the point in episodes, number four and five titled desire and how it relates to your addiction, that we all have this deep, innate desire we are born with this deep desire for that “Something More”! That we are lacking in our life.

No matter what our status is in the world and that, of course, something more. Is always a desire for a deep relationship. And that deep relationship is always a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ. And some of us find it and we receive it and some of us don’t, unfortunately.

And of course, We have to pray that everybody gets it at the end of their life. And only Jesus Christ provides us with that grace and that mercy and that peace. And he fulfills that desire for something more that we’re looking for. And as it turns out, a lot of people find out that desire is not for material worldly things. It’s not for more financial resources or that car boat, mansion, clothes, or jewelry that you’re looking for, but it turns out it’s simply the peace, the grace, the mercy, and the salvation that only Jesus Christ can provide. And then I mentioned in episodes number eight and nine, which was titled Is Addiction Sin? By emphasizing that your addiction is not about you. And you have to understand that when you’re in an addiction and we’re all addicted to something. It’s always about ourself. It’s a self fulfilling and self-gratifying journey addiction is it’s something that is selfish and we have to take ourselves out of that equation, and it’s hard. It’s easier said than done being that addicted individual who’s self-loathing and self pities themselves in that mindset. And we have to, as it says, Romans transform ourselves and renew our mind. And this is due to our sin nature and the reason why is because sin is very alluring and it’s very easy to get into and I’m guilty of it, I sin, I always tell myself I’m not broken, but I’m shattered and I have to always go to the cross and ask for forgiveness and being that addiction is sin it leads to a chain reaction of more sin, which leads into a domino effect of course, of more sin. However, when we accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and savior, and we repent. He is a God who forgives us and we have to keep that in mind. And you have to keep that in mind and he shed his blood at the cross and died at Calvary for that. Then I mentioned in episodes, number 10 and 11. Titled Satan Does Not Want You Sober where I dove deep into Satan’s role in addiction and sin by defining the character of Satan and how he shows up inconspicuous ways and how he shows up in your life in addiction, of course. And he’s always showing up whether we’re addicted or not, he’s always on the attack on the prowl to destroy us.

And then finally, of course, in episodes, 12 and 13, I talked about the importance of your faith in Jesus Christ and the gratitude that we must have. Especially living in a country like the United States of America that was founded and, settled on Christian values. And how we need to be aware and awake and sober of Satan’s worldly strategies, strategies that are sometimes beyond our control through various organizations and groups of people and these external Satanic forces are always trying to tear us apart at the gift of grace that we receive through our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. and you have to realize also that without Jesus Christ, you can never get through your addiction alone and the main point for episodes 12 and 13 with these forces that are against us these evil forces that we shouldn’t allow the world to influence, compromise or undermine our faith in Jesus Christ and shed doubt on it. We need to stay steadfast in our faith and we need to again, be grateful for that and not just in our addictions, but in life, and put on the full armor of God, as it says in Ephesians chapter six. In this episode, I’m going to address five fundamental principles of analyzing your addiction as a Christian and these are fundamentals, five fundamentals is of addiction analyzing your addiction as a Christian that I learned when I went through the Genesis Recovery Process, And when it comes to analyzing your addiction as a Christian you’ll find as I progress with this podcast. And there’ll be exercises as well on the website on the 99 relapses.org website it’s the number of 99 relapsed.org. That will accompany each of these episodes. So I’m getting into more of the counseling and coaching portion of this podcast. And I’m really excited to present this to all of you and hopefully it’ll help. I’m going to take a short commercial break and when I come back, I’ll talk about the five principles of analyzing your addiction as a Christian

Okay, welcome back to the 99 relapses podcast and before the commercial break, I had mentioned that this Podcast episode is the five principles of analyzing your addiction as a Christian.

And the five. Fundamental principles are. The law of pain. Number one, number two, double bind. Number three social immaturity. Number four, the problem of control. And finally. number five, the secret of recovery. I’ll start with the law of pain and the best way to illustrate. The law of pain would be an example let’s say for instance, you had a work-related injury and it was your back and there’ll be several months before you’re scheduled for your surgery. So as time progresses, your back pain gets worse and you start taking over the counter anti-inflammatories for your pain and finally you start taking pain medication and then of course the day comes when you finally get the surgery on your back and your the pain goes completely away. So after some time you’d get some rehab and you’re doing much better, even better with no medications at all for pain. And then all of a sudden. You have a desire for the pain medications and. It’s the same way with emotional pain. It works the same way. So you have pain in your life through your experiences from the things that you may have done to yourself or what others may have done to you. And much of that pain has become of course, subconscious. And then it results in this self-destructive coping behavior and I had mentioned this in episode number one, when I bared my personal testimony with talking about my rocky relationship with my father with at the hand of my father with physical and verbal abuse and I was rebelling with the use of drugs and I know there was no excuse for that, but subconsciously. I was masking that pain of that verbal and physical abuse over the course of many years and so what happens is this coping behavior and avoiding the subconscious pain is what drives that addiction and it leads you down to a path of sin, because I had mentioned that addiction is sin and it becomes a vicious cycle of this self destructive addiction and sin and it gets out of control. And again, it gets back to this rebellion and the only person you’re hurting of course is yourself. But we don’t realize that as you don’t realize that as you go through an addiction, so all addictions are anesthetics that primarily do the same thing they push you towards these unwanted thoughts, feelings and these memories towards temporarily keeping them out of your awareness and this is where faith in God is so important when we go through an addiction and a verse that I’d like to share comes from Isaiah 41:10, which says don’t be afraid for, I am with you don’t be discouraged for I am your God I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.

The second principal of addiction in analyzing your addiction is what’s called the double bind. And this is number two and the way this works is when you go through an addiction you tend to avoid uncomfortable situations you pretty much just avoid a lot of things, but you avoid uncomfortable situations, which result in what’s called the double bind and a good example of a double bind is a situation of being damned if you do or damned, if you don’t. Is the, probably the best way to put it. For example, you might say something like. I want to quit drugs and alcohol because they were destroying my life but I don’t believe I could cope with life without drugs. And that’s what a double bind is.

And these double binds create fear and lot of anxiety and they create a lot of anger because the anger comes from the frustration of the anxiety and the fear and I emphasize that these feelings of fear and anxiety and even anger all come from the enemy. They’re not, they don’t come from God. God provides you with the complete opposite of those. And that’s why I put so much emphasis on the enemy in the last four episodes. God provides you with, like I said, with the opposite of these feelings. These feelings are so uncomfortable with that you have these compulsive and addictive behaviors to help yourself to get through them, to avoid the problems that you don’t want to confront and if you listened to my episodes at the very beginning, I think it was episode number two and three when I talked about fear and anxiety and anger and especially anxiety is that these also cause stress causes a lot of physical or physiological ailments and illness. Healthy people you have to remember move toward unresolved problems and unhealthy people run away from problems and this is why with the help of God, it’s so important to be in faith and with others to have in your life as you’re going through these addictions to recognize and resolve these double binds. And I’ll get into this further with an episode where I will dedicate to double binds and personal identity. This is all necessary for longterm recovery. And a verse that I like to share with you comes from Philippians 4:6-7 which reads do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, By prayer and petition with Thanksgiving, present your request to God and the peace of God, which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ. Jesus.

The third principle of addiction as a Christian is social immaturity and this is an interesting principal and it’s another challenge that addicted individuals face what’s called delayed maturity or social immaturity. Studies have been conducted that addicted individuals who. Who are addicted and continue to be addicted, have shown that the age at which they started using is the age at which they’re delayed in their emotional and social development. For example, a 35 year old addicted individual who started to use it, let’s say 13 years old is unable to develop social maturity and may still even act and feel like a 13 year old in a social situation and that individual must learn to tolerate being flooded with these teenage feelings while not acting on these impulses and of course, as humans, we mature by going through problems and keeping commitments and putting value on our own sense of integrity. Maturity requires getting help and working through these problems and it’s so hard that what happens is a lot of times individuals will do really well with their sobriety they’ll be humming along for several months and even years and all of a sudden all that time that they have under their belt with sobriety and the use sets them back again into that social immaturity mindset. So that’s something they have to get over.

Number four, the problem of control and we all have this issue, whether we’re addicted or not you’ve probably heard the term let go and let God. That’s what this is about. And the first step to of course, sobriety has to do with the transference of the control issues of just letting go and just putting all your faith in God and allowing him to Move you through the process of recovery and just surrender. Unfortunately, the reason for relapsing perhaps sometimes 99 times is because you’re trying to gain control of your addiction and behavior and despite you trying to play God with your willpower and your self-discipline, intelligence, good intentions, it never works. You’re going to end up back in the same place you started because you’re not surrendering yourself to God. And this is all about surrendering and the results are different in that your control has taken you somewhere where you don’t want to be. And this is the reason why you keep relapsing is because you’re not giving God the control and, a persons will wants to stay in control, but of course, willpower doesn’t allow that, and definitely doesn’t work with ,addiction. In fact, the first three steps of the traditional 12 step programs are all about giving up control, which are number one, we admit we are powerless over our addictions that our lives have become unmanageable. And then number two we came to believe that a power greater than ourselves Jesus Christ could restore us to sanity and I say Jesus Christ because NA and AA go on this premise of a higher power and the only way to get through your addiction is through the grace and mercy of our Lord and savior Jesus Christ I know I’ve said this in multiple episodes and then number three we made a decision to turn our lives over to the care of God as we understood him. Along with power good intentions feel powerful, the old saying the road to hell is paved with good intentions. But of course, good intentions fail over and over again. If you haven’t learned to trust God or don’t know God, or stay angry with God, you won’t be able to give him this control. Three there’s three. Versus Bible verses that I wanted to share with you. Isaiah 41:10 and it reads. Fear, not for, I am with you. Be not dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you. I will help you. I will uphold you with my righteous hand.

Proverbs 19:21 reads many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.

And then 1 Corinthians 10:13. No temptation has overtaken you. That is not common to man. God is faithful. He will not let you be tempted beyond your ability. But with temptation, he will also provide the way of escape that you may be able to endure it.

And then finally Proverbs 16:9 reads. The heart of man. Plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.

And then finally, number five, the secret of recovery is when you’re confronted with an addiction.

You can’t earn your way to recovery. You have to realize that recovery is a gift from God It’s a miracle of physical, mental, spiritual and emotional healing and it’s to be received with an attitude of gratitude and I spoke about gratitude at the beginning of this podcast episode. And it’s the gratitude for God’s grace that gets us through that. So when you lose your gratitude by thinking that you deserve more or better and that’s just the natural reaction as a human.

We become and you become resentful you become rebellious and I mentioned that word rebellion because that’s where a lot of addiction stems from it this stems from rebellion. This leads to addiction and sin and, out of that resentfulness, This is where you try to control the situation and manipulate your life to make it come out the way it should be early way, at least you think it should be and this causes again, a lot of anxiety and a lot of stress and a lot of exhaustion and overreacting which leads into fatigue and relapse, and I’ll go over this concept of what’s called the faster scale in future episodes it’s a really awesome scale based on the vacillation or the emotions that you go through when you’re. Addicted or going through addiction that can potentially lead to relapse or that can lead to total sobriety and these are things that you need to be aware of when you’re going through sobriety or when you’re going through addiction.

The main point here is that the first step in successful recovery is of course being grateful and that’s in life in general and again, it’s being able to trust and that, of course, that trust starts with Jesus Christ knowing that you have no control of your addiction and Your sobriety can only be accomplished through trusting in Jesus Christ and this is the path of course, to successful recovery.

And the process also starts, as I mentioned if realizing that addiction is selfish and it’s sin and repenting for that sin and knowing that you Jesus Christ went to that cross for that sin and the Bible verse verses that I’d like to share with you on gratitude. Come from

1 Thessalonians 5:18, which reads give thanks in all circumstances for this is the will of God and Christ Jesus for you.

And then Colossians 3:17 reads. Whatever you do. In word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord. Jesus Christ. Give thanks to God, the father through him.

And then Psalms 136:1. Chapter 136:1, reads give thanks to the Lord. For he is good. For his steadfast love endures forever.

And then James 1:17 reads. Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above. Coming down from the father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.

Psalm 118:28- 29 reads. You are. My God and I will give thanks to you. You are my God. I will extol you. Oh, give thanks to the Lord for he is good for his steadfast love endures forever.

And then finally, 1 Corinthians 15:57 reads. But thanks be to God who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

Finally. I want to briefly mention a few things about hope. When it comes to addiction. Hope. Is very important in life in general and our hope of course is in Jesus Christ and it’s very important in recovery when you’re going through addiction and I’ll even devote a future podcast episode to hope. And that is, you have to realize that hope is a fundamental ingredient to relapse prevention. There’s no question about that. The other thing is hope is not a concept, but it’s a substance.

You either have hope or you don’t have hope. And then finally hope comes from your faith in Jesus Christ. As I’d mentioned, hope does not come from feelings. You have to realize that feelings come and go. With your emotions. And hope comes from that change. And of course that change comes from risk. And that risk comes from faith. And of course the faith gives you the hope to change and risk again.

I just want to thank you so much for listening to this episode of the 99 relapses podcast. And i’d like to close this podcast episode out with a prayer

Heavenly father, we come to you with a humble heart, which are so grateful and thankful for you. Lord God, will you give us the strength and courage to get through each and every day to get through our addictions, to get through our brokenness. That you brought your only begotten son, Jesus Christ, our Lord and savior our Messiah, our king of Kings or Lord of Lord, our prince of peace, who you brought here in a physical body to shed his blood at the cross. To shed his blood at the cross for our sins that he was paid for us at the cross of Calvary and washed them white and clean and he died at the cross for a death that we didn’t deserve. We didn’t deserve it at all Lord, but we know that we get our strength and our courage through you through your son, Jesus Christ. And through that crucifixion at the cross. And as I continue to pray, Lord, we just ask that you continue to place a hedge of protection around anyone and everyone that’s listening to this podcast that you bring them to complete and total sobriety and you watch over them watch over their families and we just thank you in your son’s name jesus Christ. Amen.

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